Hop Safe Secure

Posted October 20, 2007 By admin

Hop Safe Secure

What would you make of this person, his motivations and actions?

What do you make of an unprincipled coward who refuses to make a stand -- or even take a position -- in virtually every aspect of his sad existence? This is a "man" who allows others to walk all over him, happily taking orders and otherwise bowing and scraping his way through life. This same person is a confirmed fence-sitter, always remaining out of any debates or disagreements no matter what might be at stake.

Depending on what you make of our subject, consider this bizarre turn of events. This same craven individual recently saw fit to hop off his "safe and secure" fence only to attack one who had been his friend. It was the quintessential stab in the back, both unexpected and unprovoked. Now, what would be this worm's motivation in choosing to stab a trusted friend in the back? Was it because he felt comparatively safe in attacking an unwary friend rather than confronting a dangerous foe? What is the psychology behind such a vile act? Feelings of inadequacy? Passive-Aggressive?

Mac,

These are questions your onetime friend should be asking himself, if he can. Honestly, I don’t understand why he’d choose to act in such an insensitive, crass, and patronizing manner. Also, since he was well aware of at least some of the challenges you’re facing right now, I’d have expected quite the opposite approach: one of support, sympathy, certainly understanding… or, at the very least, simple silence. Perhaps that’s why I personally find his choice so shocking, so disappointing, so deplorable. I truly can’t fathom his motives... but these are not the actions of a friend.

I wish your (former) friend would have taken the time to analyze the situation. Even now he should be making an earnest self-assessment, truly stopping and considering his (mis)conduct. There are times in every life when we disappoint, even fail, our friends. Usually, however, once the pain we’ve caused is apparent, we (hopefully) have the honor and integrity to regret our hasty words and actions. We make a sincere effort to amend our own lack of insight and empathy, instead of finding fault with our friends’ reactions to our own poor conduct.

I don’t have any respect for people who resort to the “blame the victim” mentality in masking their own behaviors – behaviors which should rightly shame them. I’ve probably long overestimated the character of the individual(s) at play here. Perhaps, for this person, feelings of shame and regret are not even possible. Indeed, I have it on good authority that he never apologizes, no matter how egregious his words and actions. Judging by some of the indignant, self-righteous and very nasty answers you’ve received to your question, I sadly have the growing realization this is true of others, as well.

A note to openurmind and yitka: Fortunately, I don’t know either of you. Judging by the vitriolic tenor and tone of your despicable posts, I don’t ever care to change that circumstance. I do know, however, that you, openurmind, had until recently been considered a friend of Mac’s, and as such you were privy to his recent cancer diagnosis. So, knowing this, you decide to toss a twisted variation on the word “cancer” into your response here?! And sagebella (someone I thought I knew), you’re thanking her?! What sort of people are you?! Maybe, unlike me, you have had no personal experience with cancer, and therefore cannot relate, let alone empathize. Still, I am stunned by your complete lack of basic humanity. “Shameful” doesn’t even BEGIN to describe it… For your own sakes, may you NEVER have friends like yourselves in times of need. And if you ever do, I won’t pity you, either.

P.S. Mac has likely forgotten more about what it takes to be a true KNIGHT than you and your "hero" will ever even begin to comprehend.

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